CHRISTINE TIERNEY COACHING
Life Coaching with Heart, Hope and Humor
Welcome To My Site!
Hi, I'm Christine, a certified online life, relationship, and self-esteem coach.
I help people build confidence and break free from their people pleasing habits—
like always putting others first, struggling to say no,
or feeling the need to be overly nice and accommodating just to be liked or loved.
My mission is to empower individuals to reclaim their true worth
and realize that we are all born worthy,
without having to work so hard for anyone’s approval or acceptance.
I advocate for inclusivity and warmly embrace
individuals of all races, genders, sexual orientations,
national origins, body sizes, differing abilities,
and cultural or class backgrounds.
How I Can Support You
In our coaching journey, my priority is to create a welcoming, non-judgmental virtual space where you feel truly seen, heard, and valued. I understand how it feels to be left behind or overlooked, and I'm here to support you every step of the way. While I guide and encourage you, the work itself is yours to do—real change comes from your commitment to take action and make the shifts that matter most to you.
My Coaching Approach Is Centered On:
Setting Realistic Goals: We’ll identify what you truly want to achieve and craft practical, actionable plans to make it happen.
Intuitive Questioning: Through deep, thoughtful conversations, I’ll help you explore and address the people pleasing behaviors that impact your life, such as:
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Prioritizing Others Over Yourself: Putting others' needs before your own.
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Difficulty Saying No: Struggling to turn down requests or invitations.
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Emotional Responsibility: Feeling compelled to manage or fix others' emotions.
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Seeking External Validation: Relying on others' approval to feel good about yourself.
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Weak Boundaries: Finding it hard to set and enforce personal boundaries.
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Low Self-Worth: Experiencing feelings of unworthiness or a lack of confidence.
***This list includes some of the common challenges I can help you with, but it’s not limited to these. Each person’s experience is unique, and I am here to support you in addressing the specific issues you face, helping you to overcome limiting beliefs and start living a life that truly reflects your worth.
A Little Bit About Me
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I'm a former people pleaser.
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It took me a LONG time to overcome my people-pleasing habits, and now I help others do it in much less time than it took me.
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I use the pronouns she/her/hers and encourage my clients to share their preferred pronouns.
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I drive a funky orange car that’s great on gas.
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I’ve been happily married (with our ups and downs!) for 28 years.
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For nearly three decades, I was the CEO and Program Director of a successful non-profit arts-focused afterschool program.
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I hold a Master of Fine Arts in Creative Writing and a Bachelor of Arts in Film.
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I’m not just a life coach; I'm also certified in relationship, transformational, solution-focused, people-pleasing, and confidence coaching.
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I'm a poet, fiction writer, and collage artist. In 2021, I published a book of poetry.
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Fun fact: I have three kidneys! I received a life-saving kidney transplant from a generous stranger. Huge shout-out to all the brave organ donors out there!
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I have a REALLY good sense of humor and can make just about anyone laugh.
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When I taught art to kids, my mantra was always, “The weirder, the better.”
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I've been known to binge-watch TV shows like RuPaul’s Drag Race, Seinfeld, and many others.
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I’m empathetic and insightful, and my clients appreciate my compassion, sincerity, sharp listening skills, and direct coaching approach.
My People Pleaser Journey: From Silence to Self-Empowerment
My struggle with people pleasing started early, driven by relentless bullying during my childhood. I thought that if I could just be the "perfect" daughter, sibling and friend—always nice, endlessly supportive, never asking for anything in return—people would finally accept, like, and love me. But what started as a coping mechanism became a prison. As I carried these habits into adulthood, the toll they took on me grew heavier. I suppressed my true self to keep others happy, which left me simmering with anger and resentment. I felt trapped, living a double life—outwardly kind and accommodating, but internally filled with bitterness because my efforts were unappreciated and often exploited. This cycle seeped into every part of my life—my relationships, my career, my mental health, and my confidence. I became a magnet for people who took advantage of my need to please, leaving me feeling used, invisible, and deeply unhappy. Even when I tried to stand up for myself, guilt and self-doubt would quickly drag me back into my old habits. Therapy was a crucial part of my healing journey. With a skilled therapist, I began to unravel the family dysfunction and childhood trauma that shaped my people pleasing tendencies. Writing poetry became my refuge, a way to express my deepest thoughts and emotions and gradually rebuild my confidence. Finding a partner who loved me for who I truly am, helped me learn to love myself as well. But it was life coaching that truly empowered me to change. Working with coaches helped me put all the self-help knowledge I’d gathered into action. I learned to say no, express my opinions without fear, and start living for myself rather than trying to meet others' expectations. Today, I’m passionate about helping others who feel trapped in the same cycle I once did. I know what it’s like to lose yourself in the pursuit of pleasing others, but I also know that there’s a way out. I’m here to guide you to reclaim your voice, your power, and your joy. You don’t have to keep living for everyone else. It’s time to start living for you.
My Signature Coaching Packages
Experience a transformative journey with my coaching packages designed to boost your confidence and help you break free from people pleasing behaviors. Together, we'll uncover the reasons behind your need to please others, and take decisive actions to help you love and feel better about yourself, so you can stop your people pleasing behaviors.
My 1:1
8-Week
It's All About You, So Let's Get Started
Coaching Package
My 1:1
12-Week
It's All About You PREMIUM PLUS
Coaching Package
My 1:1
6-Week
“Just for Tweens”
Coaching Package
Description:
This 8-week coaching journey is dedicated to you. Together, we'll explore the roots of your people pleasing tendencies and set practical goals to transform these behaviors. We'll focus on empowering you to prioritize your own needs and embrace a more confident and authentic self.
Description:
This comprehensive 12-week PREMIUM coaching package is designed to dive deeper into your journey of self-discovery and empowerment. We’ll uncover the underlying causes of your people pleasing habits and create actionable steps to overcome them, fostering lasting change and self-confidence.
Description:
This special coaching package is designed exclusively for tweens, ages 9-12. We'll focus on building their confidence, helping them understand the importance of prioritizing their own needs, and teaching them how to set healthy boundaries. Our sessions will be engaging and supportive, fostering a positive, relaxing, fun, and empowering environment for young and wonderful minds.
What You Get:
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Eight 60-minute 1:1 virtual coaching sessions.
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Personalized "homework" assignments tailored to your specific needs and challenges
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A final follow-up email summarizing our discussions, with insights and suggestions for your continued growth.
What You Get:
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One 90-minute 1:1 initial virtual session intensive.
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Eleven 60-minute coaching sessions.
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Follow-up emails after each session with highlights, feedback, encouragement, and suggestions.
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Ongoing email support between sessions.
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Two 15-minute check-in phone calls for those tough weeks when you need extra support.
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Self-development worksheets and handouts.
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Self-improvement journal prompts.
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Links to articles and videos related to our discussions.
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Personalized self-care "homework" assignments tailored to your specific needs and challenges.
What Your Tween Will Get:
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Six 60-minute 1:1 virtual coaching sessions.
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Personalized, fun, and creative "homework" assignments tailored to your tween’s specific needs and challenges. I’m instinctively good at knowing where kids are at and what kind of assignments will work for their unique selves.
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Someone neutral to talk to that isn’t a school counselor, a teacher, or—no disrespect meant—their parent.
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A midpoint check-in where I meet with both you and your tween to discuss our progress.
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A final follow-up email summarizing our discussions, with insights and suggestions for your tween's continued growth.
***The prices of my coaching packages will be sent to you upon request. You can reach out via email or through the contact box here on my website.
***Results vary for each individual, and while I’m here to support your growth, there’s no guarantee of specific outcomes. Your journey is unique, and the effort you put in plays a big role in the progress you make.
Logan,
Cambridge, MA
Harvard University Student
"When I started working with Christine I had a rough idea of what I was hoping to accomplish. She was able to crystallize my goals and help me work through my obstacles. One thing I was targeting was my people pleasing, which had been causing a lot of self-resentment and overall dissatisfaction. Christine provided ways to practice being more assertive, clear, and direct in my communication, for example in emails and text messages. We also worked on ways that I could improve my relationships while still expressing myself honestly. She is very down to earth, a great listener and question asker, and has a good sense of humor. I recommend working with her if you're looking for help with any goal, big or small."
Tavy, Queens, NY, Entrepreneur
Jamie,
West Virginia,
Case Manager
“I work with people daily and must say Christine is one of the most authentic souls that I have come across in a long time. We worked for a couple of months on my people pleasing tendencies. See, I am a very hard worker, very dependable and I am "the one" everyone goes to for assistance. The only problem is I take on way too much, and have a difficult time saying no, in fear of disappointing, or letting people down. Christine helped me prioritize what was most important to me and helped me have the confidence to say no to people in a way that felt kind but firm. During our time together I also realized I needed to carve out some "me time," and since doing so, I have noticed how more relaxed I have become. I never felt any pressure or judgement during our sessions and Christine is a GREAT listener. On top of all these amazing qualities she also brings amazing humor and a down to earth vibe that is comforting. If you are looking for someone to help guide you during some of life’s challenges, I absolutely recommend Christine's services!!”